Ankita B Chandak | Montessori Expert | Parenting Coach

Summer + a child who wants something cold every day = this. Eight recipes. Thirty seconds each. Zero added sugar. 🍫 Chocolate Banana — frozen banana, cold milk, 1 scoop of @our.littlejoys Nutrimix 2+ 🥜 Peanut Butter Power — frozen banana, peanut butter, cold milk, 1 scoop Nutrimix 🌰 Date Almond — soaked dates, almonds, cold milk, 1 scoop Nutrimix 🍓 Strawberry Vanilla — frozen strawberries, cold milk, drop of vanilla, 1 scoop Nutrimix 🌹 Rose Pista — cold milk, crushed pistachios, dash of rose water, 1 scoop Nutrimix 🫐 Berry Blast — frozen mixed berries, cold milk, 1 scoop Nutrimix 🥥 Coconut Cocoa — cold milk, 2 tbsp coconut milk, 1 scoop Nutrimix, ice 🍌 Oats & Banana — frozen banana, 2 tbsp soaked oats, cold milk, 1 scoop Nutrimix 6g protein. Boosts immunity with 23 vitamins and minerals. Save this for the next time they ask for “something cold, mumma.” 🧋

Your child is not learning self-talk from a book. They are learning it from you. Every time you call yourself stupid. Every time you grab your stomach and sigh. Every time you say “I’m such an idiot” after a small mistake. They are downloading it. Word for word. And one day when they fail, when they gain weight, when they look tired in the mirror, the voice that speaks to them will not be a stranger’s. It will be yours. Be kind to yourself. Not as self-care. As parenting. Tell me one thing you say to yourself that you’d never want your child to repeat. 👇 Save this. Read it the next time you’re in the mirror. . . . . . #consciousparenting #indianmoms #gentleparenting #parentingtips #nervoussystem

When I was 21, I thought career was everything. Children were nice. But a career? That was the real goal. Then I became a mom. And everything I thought I knew changed in the most beautiful way. I used to believe you had to choose. One baby and a career Or two babies and you give it all up. I really, really believed that. That wanting both was too much to ask. This year, with two little ones, has been the hardest year of my life. And also the most growth I have ever felt. Ever. I didn’t lose myself in motherhood. I became the best version of myself. My babies didn’t clip my wings. They gave me ones I never knew I had. Thank you for choosing me, my loves. You have no idea what you’ve done for me. You made me who I am. And to every mama reading this , you are so strong. You are doing so good. Even on the days it doesn’t feel like it. Especially on those days. Happy Mother’s Day. 🤍​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ Aish Yellow Dress @angelandrocket.in Mama and Nemy boo @zara Shot by @mommyshotsbyamrita

12 years ago, a good anniversary meant a flight. A hotel. A new country. 12 years and two babies later (one of whom is 8 months old.) I have become, and I say this with full humility, a very understanding wife😝 A coffee together counts. A walk counts. A quiet property close to Bangalore absolutely counts. And somewhere in all of that,in the coffees and the walks and the small unglamorous daily things, I realised this is what choosing each other actually looks like. Not just on anniversaries. But every single day. In all the chaos ,you are the one thing that keeps me steady. And yes. You hit the jackpot. But so did I , Happy 12 years love

We often break the very thing we are trying to build. As parents, our brain is wired to fix things. We see a smudge on a drawing and want to erase it. We see an A minus and want to push for the A. We think we are helping. We think we are giving them a head start. But every time we improve their work, we are also saying something they hear loud and clear. Your best is not good enough. Over time, the child stops trying anything new. Because trying means failing. And failing means hearing it again. This is how a child stops being curious and starts being careful. A few things that change this at home. The 5-minute rule. When your child shows you something they made, just look at it for five minutes. No suggestions. No fixes. Just look. Describe, do not judge. Instead of “that is so pretty”, try “I see you used a lot of blue in this corner.” It tells them you actually saw what they did. Cheer for the almost. A wrong answer that took effort is worth more than a right answer that came easy. Say so out loud. The goal is not to raise a child who never fails. The goal is to raise a child who is not afraid to. Tell me in the comments!👇 Has there been a moment where you stopped yourself from fixing your child’s work? What changed? . . . . . #RaisingConfidentKids #EmotionalHealth #ChildhoodDevelopment #GentleParentingTips #mindfulparenting

“You’re okay” sounds harmless. Your child’s nervous system reads it differently. What you mean: please be okay, I don’t know what to do with this. What they hear: my big feeling is too much for the person I love most. So they make it smaller. Then quieter. Then invisible. Years later, they become the adult who says “I’m fine” while falling apart. The one who can’t cry even when they need to. “I’m right here” does the opposite. It tells the nervous system: this feeling is allowed. I’m not leaving. That’s regulation. That’s emotional safety. What did YOUR parents say when you cried? 👇 Save this for the next meltdown. . . . . . #emotionalintelligence #nervoussystem #consciousparenting #indianparents #gentleparenting

There’s a quiet ache many fathers carry: my child always runs to mom. You’re not imagining it. But you’re misreading it. Attachment is not built by being around more. It’s built in the moments your child is falling apart and you stay. Most dads exit when the meltdown begins. That’s the exact moment your child is deciding who is safe. The next storm, don’t fix. Don’t talk. Just sit on the floor next to them. First time, they resist. Second time, they push you away. Third time, they climb into your lap. That’s not magic. That’s biology. Tag a dad who needs this. And dads what’s the hardest part for you? 👇 . . . . . #dadsofinstagram #fatherhood #attachmentparenting #indiandads #consciousparenting

Your six-year-old loses it over something And you feel that pull, to step in, calm them down, walk them through it. But here’s the thing. You’ve already spent years teaching them. Breathing. Naming feelings. Little tools they actually use sometimes , when they’re calm, when the stakes are low. So what happens when you still rush in every single time? They never get to find out if they can do it themselves. That’s it. That’s the whole thing. Research calls it scaffolding fade-out. The support you give a child is supposed to slowly step back as they grow. Not disappear , just loosen. Because if you’re always there catching them, they never have to find their own footing. A six-year-old isn’t two. They have something to work with now. They just need a moment where you trust that , even when it’s uncomfortable to watch. Stepping back isn’t giving up. It’s the next part of the teaching. . . . . . . #emotionalregulation #tantrums #childdevelopment

If you think this is just a cute video, let me tell you why it is much more than that. Watch what Aish does here. She names the scarf. She explains the game. She says “you’re doing great” to a six month old who cannot understand a single word yet. Except his brain can. And it is. This is parentese in its purest form. Warm tone, real words, real sentences, genuine excitement. Not taught. Not rehearsed. Just a six year old loving her brother the way she knows how. And in doing that, she is building his language, his sense of safety, and their bond all at once. Every time she does something and waits for him to respond, that is serve and return. One of the most powerful things a brain needs in the first year of life. She does not know that. She is just playing. That is exactly the point. As their mama, watching this was a reminder. Not a cute one. A real one. That my baby’s brain is working right now, building language from every interaction around him. And that the best thing I can do is make sure those interactions are rich, warm, and full of real words. Talk to your baby. Full sentences. Real words. And if you have an older child at home, let them in. Sibling interaction is one of the most underrated drivers of early language development. Your baby is not too young for any of this. That is the whole point. . . . . . #languagedevelopment #speechdevelopment #montessorifrombirth #montessoriathome

500,000 of you. 🧡 I still can’t believe I’m typing that number. I was an engineer once. Then I became a mom. Then one book — just one — cracked something open in me that I couldn’t ignore. And here we are. But honestly? This milestone isn’t mine. You didn’t just follow me — you became part of this story. Every time you saved a reel at 2am wondering why your toddler was melting down. Every time you DMed me saying “this helped.” Every time you shared a post with a friend who needed it. That’s what built this. Some of you trusted me with the most important job in the world — raising your child. I don’t take that lightly. Not for a single day. So before I tell you about the journey, I just want to say — Thank you. From the bottom of my heart. 🙏 Now swipe to see how it all really began 👉 💬 And I’d love to know — what brought YOU to this page? How many Children do you have ? Where are you from ? Drop it in the comments. I read every single one. . . . . . #parenting #parents

Yes I am the parent coach, but it’s my husband who taught my daughter what it means to be more reflective, less reactive and it’s been such a big tool! The days are calmer , the power struggles are shorter and as a result - our home is more peaceful :) When we teach something to our daughter, we first apply it on ourselves - goes without saying We can only teach our children to be reflective if we are one too :) Drop me a ❤️ if you found this useful and went more such tools :)

The hardest and the most important work as a mom of 2 has been managing my older one whose life absolutely changed the moment the baby arrived. It has not been easy to show up for her in the best way possible - during the first 20 days. It was an absolute rollercoaster At 2 months - it still is But connecting after messing up , validating and giving words to her big feelings has helped her to much and now we see handling everything in a much better manner What was the hardest thing for you when you became a mom the second time around ? Tell me , would love to hear you out ❤️